Life can change in a flash when you least expect it. One milestone not completed, one less word spoken, taking one tantrum at a time. Sitting in that room hearing a doctor use the words, on the spectrum, autism, special ed, speech therapy, psychiatrist visits, Occupational therapists, early intervention, life long, no cure, different. You knew for awhile, but hearing those words come from your child’s doctor, it turns real and hits you like a brick. The feeling doesn't usually come til you’re getting out of the office or maybe when you get home. The thought process takes a little while. All you think about is you child's future, well, will he have a somewhat normal childhood? Could he live an easy life? Will he be able to get married, have kids? It took me a little while but decided I didn’t need to talk about these future questions right now. It’s time to think of the now and what I could do to give him all those chances if I just focus on today and not tomorrow or the next day, but today. “What can I do for my child today that will help him tomorrow?” That is the question you need to be asking yourself, and that is what I ask myself everyday. This diagnosis is not a life sentence. It doesn't mean that their life is over, it is so very very far away from that. These children need more guidance than ever right now, and they will do really great things in their life, things you never thought was possible. If you just give them that chance and encouragement. My children are the smartest kids I know. Why would I think their life and goals would have boundries? What they can do is limitless, endless, innumerable. It is amazing how much help is out there for children with these daily struggles. You aren't alone in any of this. There are so many people out there that go through and have gone through what you are going through right now and these are the people who you need to reach out to, don’t be afraid. It will be extremely tough and some days even harder. Somedays you don’t feel strong enough and overwhelmed but you hold it together for yourself and even more so for that amazing child of yours. Your child is learning from you, you need to toughen up and stay positive for them and for yourself. Your child is amazing! and nothing has changed that. Your child has always been this amazing little human being you grew to love as soon as they came into your life on day one. A diagnosis is just a diagnoses, it’s just a word. The diagnosis didn’t change your child. It just helps you understand more of what your child goes through with autism and what help to seek, not to better your child, but to help them along their way with less struggles and more strength. I love my children, autism and all. They are my amazing babies. I will always fight for them and be beside them through it all. I am all in! I am a mother who loves her beautiful autistic children with all her heart and wouldn't have it any other way. Things WILL get better. If you don’t feel that way at the moment, you buckle up and keep going! “better” will be here so enough. You just watch. Remember, your child and you can do anything and overcome any bump in the road but it will smooth out and it will be an easier path and together you guys are an awesome team. Love your child for who they are. Just look up. :)
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