Some days

These are my boys, Finley and Oliver. My blog is mostly about these two amazing kids. Most things I write about is Autism and how it is living with it everyday. Some things I will write will be positive of course, but I do have those days where some things are tough and hard to get through and I know it's best to not just give you the good days all the time cause that isn't what really happens. And any parent that has a child or children with autism know that there are days that are tougher and most days will be okay and take a turn very quickly. One minute your child will be pretty content and happy then the next minute your child will be in full blown meltdown mode with no signs of stopping. Before my oldest Oliver was diagnosed I didn't realize what was happening, being a first time mother, I was scared and in denial for a little while but he eventually got diagnosed and then we were on out way to getting the help he needs, he was diagnosed a little later on at 4 years old which made things a little more of a challenge but he has made incredible progress given the circumstances. I never knew that when I was pregnant with my youngest, Finley, that he would have autism. I was thinking "what are the chances of this happening again?" but when he hit one, he was not hitting milestones and not talking and I knew right away something was off so we got him help right away. We got him help so early on because I knew what to look for because of my oldest. Finley is in early intervention and is doing amazing work and is suprising me everyday. It is VERY important getting help for your child so early on, it makes a huge difference. He is happier, more understanding, and even has some words when he had none from the beginning. Things have been tough but compared to how it was before diagnoses', it has been a little smoother. My oldest son still has issues in school which is not his fault entirely, the school is not cooperating well with his needs and what he needs everyday. I am in the process of finding a school that is best for him. He has been back and forth from his elementary school to a partial care program for behavior which was only 6-8 weeks but that helped him tremendously. The therapist there have been amazing working with him. I will have to write more about his school in a future post. I swear I can write a book alone on Oliver and his school. lol 

My youngest is so much different then my oldest. Yes, they are both on the spectrum but they are so so very different. My youngest is almost 3 and he has an amazing temper. He rarely has a meltdown, especially ever since he had early intervention. He is a very happy child that loves to be hugged and kissed. My oldest loves affection too but he has frequent meltdowns no matter where he is. He throws, kicks, punches, pinches, scratches, whenever he gets into his fits. Sometimes he becomes a little dangerous and I have to pull his little brother away from him because Oliver will not care who is in his path when he is throwing things. He isn't always like that with his brother, he loves him and will give him a hug and a kiss from time to time and before bed. It just depends on the day. They can be  affectionate to eachother and I love that. Most days they do their own thing and play separately and not so much ignore each other but are in their own little worlds. I love my children but some day are super tough and sometimes I feel like I can't do it anymore but I try and brush the stress off and do what I do as a mother to make my children happy. <3